“Rise above the storm and you will find the sunshine.”
~ Mario Fernandez
Sometimes life sucks. Sometimes things happen that just suck. But there is ALWAYS something coming that is better. You will ALWAYS learn from the lesson. But I know, sometimes it's tough to keep the faith.
A friend of mine just had a miscarriage. This is what I wrote to her:
"When I read this (her email to me telling me she had just miscarried) I cried for you.
I totally understand what you are going through and it SUCKS.
SUCKS
SUCKS
SUCKS
There's no other way to put it Supermom.
But I PROMISe...it will get better.
And your baby will come -- at the perfect time.
I am so so sorry.
I am sending you so much strength, love, light and reiki and COURAGE. You've GOT THIS SISTER.
Do what you need to do to keep it together and remember that it's ok and good for your family to see you cry. It's a normal part of life so don't hide it.
Also the physical part SUCKS. (After my miscarriage) I was like, "WHAT?!?!? All this pain and NO BABY!?!?!?"
We were slated to teach in NYC that weekend and I was bleeding everywhere and my Sagey said, "Mama, maybe you shouldn't go teach in NYC this weekend?"
That sunday was Mother's day btw and I was crying and crying until Sagey said, "I remember when you told us you were pregnant."
I said, "That was a happy day."
She replied, "Now all the days are sad."
That kicked my a** out of my depression pretty darn fast (I had been crying for five straight days). I focused on what I DID have (three healthy happy kids) and let my body heal.
And then I created my magical twins. I was pregnant with them three months later to the day (and I had told my midwife at the miscarriage ultrasound that I would be -- she thought I was nuts).
Take the time to let your body, mind and spirit heal and prepare the space for the baby who is coming to you. Becaues your baby IS coming. I can feel it and I am wicked psychic.
Lots of love and sparkles,
Taylor
P.S. This was me at my DNC which I had BEG BEG BEG a friend of a friend to do for me (she's an OBGYN) b/c NO ONE would do it for me until a WEEK LATER (WTF?!?!) and I was SICK AS A DOG with nausea because my body still thought I was pregnant. UGH it sucked. She did it without anesthesia. Excruciating.
And ya, I had Philippe take a photo me b/c I KNEW KNEW KNEW I would need it to help Supermoms (like you!)